That racism doesn’t always come from overtly prejudiced groups like the Klan, neo-Nazis bent on racial purity, or uptight Bible-thumpers. White women in the ultra-liberal California city of San Francisco who pride themselves on tolerance gave my wife and I the evil eye because we are a mixed-race couple. They assume that the Asian woman is incapable of making her own decisions and is in need of their smug, self-serving protection, and that’s the worst kind of racism there is.Most of the time we get the evil eye from people who are otherwise accepting and liberal refuse to accept the fact that I may just be in love with an Asian woman. Although they may not say it out loud, their looks say,“… There is an inherent assumption that if a white man is with an Asian woman, it automatically means that he is taking advantage of her and she is unable of making intelligent decisions on her own.There are always two things that come to mind whenever the topic turns to “yellow fever”.Most would think of the tropical, mosquito-borne disease that literally turns patients to a sickly yellow.Oftentimes, we see the picture of a white man going great lengths to win an Asian woman’s heart (or body), but there’s apparently more than meets the eye.
The most prominent one I can recall was Jet Li's character in the 2000 movie, "Romeo Must Die" where he was initially to kiss the late Aaliyah but the ending was re-scripted to a hug when producers feared mainstream American audiences would find the kiss too uncomfortable.Instead, they characterize it as “yellow fever” and accuse people like me of having some sort of fetish, think that we’re looking for an easy way out, that we’ve taken mail-order brides, or that it’s just “because we couldn’t get a white woman.” Or worse, they assume the Asian woman is a victim and is being taken advantage of. Or contrarily, it means that she is taking advantage of him for a green card.I’ve gotten the raised eyebrow from men who have never left the Rust Belt when I tell them I used to live in Bangkok, a city they believe to be one big whorehouse filled with Thai women who were born to serve.When people see a white man walking arm in arm with a Thai woman, there is all too often an incredibly offensive assumption that they met in a go-go bar and that she was a prostitute.Yes, like every big city in the world, Bangkok does have a red light district, but for the most part Thai culture is conservative and very spiritual.But in order to arrive at an acceptable hypothesis, the need to examine all possible variables surrounding the idea must not be overlooked.